Play life.
On purpose.
You already know how to play. Aaron LeMay gives that ability a language: Pause, Choose, Play. Make one real move and learn from what comes back.
No gaming experience required.
Pause. Choose. Play.01 / The approach
A playbook for
the everyday.
A delayed email. A difficult conversation. A plan that needs to change. Pause, Choose, Play is a loop you can return to in any of them. Each move gives you something to notice and carry into the next.
Pause.
Notice where you are: your body, your state, and the story already running.
Choose.
Choose an aim on purpose. Make it small enough to act on in the situation you actually face.
Play.
Make one real move. Read the response as information, then return to Pause with what you learned.
02 / Put it into practice
Notice more.
Play on purpose.
The book moves from recognizing yourself as the Player to shaping the conditions around you. Short Core Plays and optional Side Quests give you ways to try each idea in your own life.
Recognize the Player
Notice the roles, reactions, and familiar patterns that shape your day. Find room to choose how you participate.
Make one real move
Give an everyday situation a clear aim and a doable next step. Try it, and see what happens.
Read the feedback
Separate what happened from the meaning you gave it. Use what you learn to adjust, repair, or begin again.
Try Dev Mode
Change one condition within your influence: a default, an environment, or an agreement. Design with the people affected.
You are the Player.Now available on Amazon
The Gamer's WayAn Invitation to Play
By Aaron LeMay
Four chapters explore the Player, Playing, the Game, and Dev Mode. Along the way, Aaron pairs stories with practices for noticing your patterns, choosing a next move, reading feedback, and changing conditions within your reach.
- Practice the Pause, Choose, Play loop
- Try short Core Plays and optional Side Quests
- Learn from feedback and make your next move
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04 / In good company
Different players.
New perspectives.
A few words from people who have worked with Aaron and brought his approach into their lives and teams.
Aaron is a conduit to enlightenment. Each of us is capable of achieving enlightenment on our own. However, life is distracting. When we rush around, hunting and collecting coins, often we miss larger gains. When Aaron appears in your game, STOP. Engage him. You'll be the richer for it.
Aaron has been impactful across our organization. Aaron has weekly working sessions with our CEO, managers and some our of emerging leaders. We are a group of creative and brilliant misfits who really needed a refresher in empathy, communication, balance, and conflict resolution. Aaron got to know all of the different personalities and players and offered solutions and council through real-time exercises, resets, and mini-games. Our staff walks away from every conversation or workshop with Aaron feeling encouraged, supported, and armed with new knowledge and skills.
I've worked with a number of coaches, leaders, & practitioners throughout my career ranging from leaders in design, marketing, business, and entrepreneurship and Aaron is by far one of the most inspirational people I've ever worked with. Our call was so fantastic I cut our time short to hire him to fly out and spend time with my entire executive team on how we can all level up and be exposed to new game-changing perspectives. No matter if you are a CEO or just beginning your career. Aaron is IT!
05 / Before you begin
Good
questions.
A little more context for your next move.
No. The book draws on games, but its starting point is something you already do: notice conditions, try an approach, and learn from what happens. It explains the language as you go.
It gives everyday participation a simple loop: Pause, Choose, Play. You learn to notice your patterns, choose an aim, make a move, and read the response. The book calls this holding the outcome lightly while taking care with how you act.
The Gamer’s Way: An Invitation to Play is available on Amazon. Visit the listing for current prices, formats, delivery estimates, and the return policy that applies to your purchase.
The first Core Play, One Real Move, starts with an ordinary situation you can safely try something in. Notice what is happening, choose one small aim, make a move, and look at what changed. Even no obvious change gives you something to learn from.
No. The book stands on its own. Read straight through, try the short Core Plays, and explore the optional Side Quests when they are useful to you.
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